Project Forgiveness 2009

Welcome to Project Forgiveness. Here, we collect and post videos, emails, postcards and other expressions of regret from those who seek to forgive and from those who wish to express regret.

In the days leading up to the Jewish New Year, we offer this forum as a first step. It is our hope that sharing thoughts of forgiveness online will translate into actual forgiveness between individuals in the days to come.

How to participate? It's simple. Send us your "sorry" (upload a video to youtube and send us the link) or email us at: forgiveness or mail to:

Project Forgiveness
P.O. Box 5134
Bergenfield, NJ 07621

We accept postcards, emails, powerpoint, art, music, video and more!

September 1, 2009

Hi everyone,

If you are on twitter, feel free to tweet your sorry in 140 characters or less. Don't forget the hashtag #imsorry

October 9, 2008

Thank you for being my son. I love you and miss you.
No matter what, I regret it if things don't go as you have expected. I want to make things better and I hope you can find the space in your heart to want the same.



October 8, 2008

I'm sorry for hating my husband so much - holding everything over these last 18 years against him and not trying to understand him like I would try to understand others.

I am sorry for having a short temper and not giving people the benefit of the doubt. Of judging others too harshly. Of thinking negative thoughts.
I'm sorry for yelling at my husband and kids whom I love. I'm sorry for being selfish and jealous. I will try to do better.

October 6, 2008

I ask the eternal spirit of my Aunt Vera to forgive my ungratefulness, callousness, rudeness and lack of love.

I ask forgiveness for all hurt I have caused to anyone.

October 5, 2008

Project Forgiveness received more than 120 postcards from student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA.

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:
"I am sorry that I cry a lot"

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:
"I'm sorry for littering the earth and throwing trash. I'm also sorry for being mean to my family. I am sorry for lying."

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

"Dear G-d I'm sorry that I supposed ruined or are ruining my mom's life and love live"

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

"I am sorry that I had attitude to my mom. Do you forgive me?"

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

"I'm sorry for not listening and doing what my parents say the first time. I'm sorry for getting mad at them if they don't help me the minute I need help."

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

"G-d please forgive me for not going to services for a long time."

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

"I am sorry for not sharing"

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:
"I'm sorry that sometimes I didn't listen to my parents"

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

"Dear God,

Please forgive me for making fun of my brother for having to go to summer school."

October 4, 2008

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

Dear g-d I am sorry for teleing (telling) a teacher you are wite (white) trash"

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA:

"Dear MoM and DaD I am srey (sorry) for accidently not flushing"

From a student at Congregation B'nai Israel, in Tustin CA
"I'm sorry for waking Dad up at 5:30 in the MORNING"

Thank you Congregation Or Chadash in AZ, for teaching your students about forgiveness.
We received several dozen postcards from the students and have provided text from some below:
"I am sorry for not cleaning up my room"
"Sorry I threw the crumbs"
"I am sorry Mom for mimicking you"
"I'm sorry I didn't listen"
"I ask for forgiveness for making her fall and cry"
"I am sorry for interapting when you wer talking"
"I am sorry A I hit you in the face"
"I am sorry I scratched my brother"
"Please forgive me for smacking you in my piroutte - I will not do it again"
"I am sorry I accidently spilled the chocolate powder"
"I am sorry I laughed in your class"

October 3, 2008

From a student at Congregation Or Chadash in Scottsdale, AZ:

"I want forgiveness for bertenting (pretending) to be a sleep wanting to sleep with my parents because it is warm in ther bed."


October 2, 2008

I ask all who know me to please forgive me if I have hurt, harmed, insulted or otherwise upset you in any way. I pray for health and happiness for all. Shana Tova .

- Ilya
I am sorry for not loving my husband enough, and for loving the other more.

October 1, 2008

Mom -

I am sorry I didn’t mourn your death the way it deserved to be. I don’t understand my lack of grief. Maybe it was seeing you disappear before my very eyes for so many years. Maybe it’s because at least if you are not in a better place, then you are devoid of pain. I tired my hardest to connect with you when there was nothing left to connect with-just a body, with no capacity to communicate and hopefully a soul or spirit I tried to find that spirit each time I visited you. Sometimes I could, and sometimes I couldn’t. I thought it was my fault when I couldn’t.

Why don’t I cry more than I have? I pray I haven’t lost the capacity to love. I do try to take care of Dad but I am so far away, and not always well. I say Kaddish nearly every day because it means something to Dad, but I am left empty. I don’t know how you managed that trick with the mourner’s ribbon, but it sure got my attention. Do not think I don’t miss you. I do. It’s just that I have been missing you for so long.
Does this mean you weren’t a good enough person last year? Should I still believe in the Book of Life?

I didn’t go to services today. I’m not sure if it was just because I felt lousy. Maybe it’s because I no longer understand anything. Please forgive me for all my doubts. I know you would want me to remain strong in my beliefs but I am having a hard time. I have 10 days to turn back to God. Please help me.

September 28, 2008

I am sorry that I physically abused my body.
I am sorry that I do not have the self control to control all the members of my body.
I am sorry that I have desecrated my body.
I am sorry for things that I have said that have hurt other people.
I am sorry that I did not do things to help others when I had a chance to do so.
I am sorry that I sometimes value material things more than people.
I am sorry that I have not lived my life to my maximum potential.

For all these things, I am sorry, and I am humbled by my misdeeds.

September 27, 2008

Forgive Me
Four chambers of regret.
That is what I am tonight.
Would it make a difference if I took every misspoken word that I said back onto my tongue, Swished the letters around like Listerine, And laid them back out on some heavenly scrabble board to read 'I know now how much that I have hurt you'?
And you will say that these are just words.
And you will be right.
- Daniel S. Brenner

September 24, 2008

I'm sorry I didn't let you kiss me good night forgive me
I'm sorry I didn't hug you enough forgive me
I'm sorry I didn't listen harder, longer and more effectively

forgive me I'm sorry you think I'm wrong, not fair and don't love you
forgive me I'm sorry that I say things that hurt you when I don't mean to and when I mean to forgive me I'm sorry that sometimes I'm not a better mother, wife, daughter, sister, co-worker and Human being
forgive me.

I'm sorry sometimes I talk to much and to little or to late

forgive me Most of all Dear Hashem I'm sorry for the disregard, disrespect and irresponsibility of my actions or lack of actions
Forgive me and give me a chance to be a better person to those I love and those I have yet to love.
Please Hashem give the opportunity to be a better Jew and reflect all that there is in our beautiful religion.

September 23, 2008

Students at the Yavneh Academy in Paramus, NJ drew pictures to say sorry.

September 17, 2008

I am sorry for all those who have been hurt by angry words spoken by me. I ask for forgiveness. And for those who have hurt me I feel no anger against them.

September 14, 2008

I'm sorry I yelled.
I'm sorry I was disrespectful.
I'm sorry I didn't help.
I'm sorry I criticized.
I'm sorry I belittled.
I'm sorry I was jealous.
I'm sorry I ignored you.
I'm sorry I lost your trust.
I'm sorry I disappointed you.
I'm sorry I made you sad.
I'm sorry I made you wait.
I'm sorry I upset you.
I'm sorry I didn't act nicer.
I'm sorry I waited.
I'm sorry I didn't wait.
I'm sorry I insulted you.
I'm sorry I hurt you.
I'm sorry I caused you pain.
I'm sorry I was so vain.
I'm sorry I wasn't there for you.
I'm sorry I always checked up on you.
I'm sorry I didn't do the right thing.
I'm sorry I did the wrong thing.
Life is too short.
It goes by so fast.
Please god forgive me for my sins.
Please god give me the strength to ask forgiveness of others.
Please god let them forgive me.
Please god end the suffering.
Please god forgive me.

September 12, 2008

I'm sorry for not being a big enough person to let past hurts and insults go and being able to forgive my spouse's family for the way they have treated me.

September 11, 2008

i'm sorry for being absorbed in my trivial time-wasting nonsense and not being there to do someone a favor ...

i'm sorry for having to wait to be asked/begged to do a favor, when i should have jumped at the chance unasked ...

i'm sorry for being irritable and impatient even when trying to do the favor, and not understanding the desperation of the one in need ...

i'm sorry for not understanding, and not doing what i could ...

i'm sorry ...
My mother will be gone in December for 10 years, and there isn't a day that I don't wish she were here that I could ask her forgiveness. Not for one thing, for so many things.I pray everyday that she can hear me and know how sorry I am.

thank you for letting me put this into writing. my heart is very heavy as I write this and I just want to cry. I know nobody can tell me it is all right, it can never be undone. While you have your parents you just do and say things, never did I ever think I would be sorry. Now ten year later, everyday I think of something else I should have said or done.

So I'm asking for some forgiveness from I don't know who. The hardest thing is to forgive yourself.Thank you again for letting me vent

September 10, 2008

Dear Friend,

I forgive you that you yelled at me.
I forgive you that you lost control of your anger.
I forgive you that you took out all your hardships on me.
I forgive you that you lashed out at me when you felt I was hurting you.
I forgive you that you caused me to fall silent.
I forgive you that you unintentionally destroyed my self-worth.
I forgive you that you said I'm sorry and then did it again.
I forgive you for not having enough patience to pull me out from behind the all the locks I had placed around my heart.
I forgive you for not treating me with love when I was lost and alone on the edge of myself.
I forgive you that when I gave you the only thing I had left (myself), you rejected me.
I forgive you for having to sacrifice my deepest self so that I could keep you from hurting you so much that you could not let it go.

I'm sorry that I yelled back.
I'm sorry that I wasn't in always in control of my anger.
I'm sorry that I was cold and unloving.I'm sorry that I stopped trusting you.
I'm sorry that I became mean.
I'm sorry that everything I said or did hurt you.
I'm sorry that the thing I wanted most was to stop being your friend.
I'm sorry that I felt relieved that I could pull back when you found the one person you really needed.
I'm sorry that I couldn't fix your problems and heal your heart.

Thank you for forgiving me every time.
Thank you for not holding any of it against me.
Thank you for giving me reason to trust you again.
Thank you for showing me the gift of being human.
Thank you for teaching me how to let my emotions get the best of me and have it be ok.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to find the best in myself when I had become the worst of myself.

I loved you just as deeply through everything.I only wanted to set things right.
I tried to understand you so I would not condemn you.
I understood that you were not at fault and that the situation was the problem.
I promised that I would never stop being your friend and I kept that promise to the expense of myself.I let it go every time you hurt me.
I never meant to hurt you.

Icould not send this to you, because we have already forgiven each other and are continuing the trusting, mutual friendship we had before the hard times. Sending you this would only give you pain because you would know how much you hurt me. But I wanted to release it from my self so that the all the anger, vengefulness, and hurt would no longer be a part of me.

I forgive you with truth, with love, and with a whole heart.

I love you always,Me

September 5, 2008

I ask Forgiveness of my family, friends and colleagues if I have caused any
kind of distress or upset. I love you and I am sorry. Thank you.


September 3, 2008

I am sorry for not controlling myself and yelling. I intended to remain calm to discuss, but I failed myself and you. I'm sorry you didn't feel comfortable in the the apartment and that you felt overwhelmed. I'm sorry that I'm still very upset with the way I was treated. I'm trying to forgive you, but it's taking me some time.

~Your (ex) roommate

August 28, 2008

Dear husband,
I'm sorry I can't seem to be interested in you physically.
I love you and I think you're good-looking.
I don't know why I feel this way.
your wife
Dear A,
I'm sorry I stalked you. I thought I loved you, and I really believed the palm reader who said you'd be with me forever.
I finally realize how much hurt I caused you and your wife.
Be well and I hope you can forgive me.

August 14, 2008

I'm sorry to Jennifer, Brad, Angelina, et al.

I'm sorry for my fascination with your lives, when they really are just that, YOUR lives and not anyone else's business.

Whether you swap BFs or BFFs, shave your head, refuse to wear underwear, or get arrested for DUI, it's your prerogative.

I'm sorry that the minutia of your daily existence pervades my weekend reading, and that the horrible paparazzo shot (sans makeup) makes me feel better on my darkest day. I'm sorry that I'm addicted to your melodramas like a couch potato to a bad soap opera. I'll try to understand that celebrities are real people too.

Whoops, I did it again - I bought US Weekly.

August 12, 2008

At, many of our employees spent years selling and building help desk software that was bound to fail and cost more than ever expected. We are sorry for the train wreck. We’ve learned from sins of the past and want to make it up to you. We’ve introduced the first IT service management software that is built on Web 2.0 technology and delivered via SaaS. We promise this is not the same legacy of customer abuse.
I would like to write a note saying that I forgive my husband. We have been having a difficult time & often I have blamed him for it. I want him to know that it is him being there for me that matters not the problems we have had. He is a good man & he needs to know that.
Google says sorry....

August 11, 2008

Lee Israel's "Can You Ever Forgive Me?: Memoirs of a Literary Forger" was featured on this morning's The TakeAway.

A review on reads, "Barely repentant and witheringly funny, Israel recalls her short life of literary crime as, first, the forger of signed letters by such personages as Dorothy Parker, Noel Coward, and Louise Brooks, and then, more desperately, an out-and-out thief of such documents, all for resale to dealers and collectors."

Does fessing up make someone worthy of forgiveness, or is true "repentant" attidude required?

August 8, 2008

And here it is... an apology....

"In 2006, I made a serious error in judgment and conducted myself in a way that was disloyal to my family and to my core beliefs," he said in a written statement. "I recognized my mistake and I told my wife that I had a liaison with another woman, and I asked for her forgiveness."


Ok, it's not an apology yet... but we're waiting...

In an interview for broadcast tonight on Nightline, Edwards told ABC News correspondent Bob Woodruff he did have an affair with 44-year old Rielle Hunter, but said that he did not love her.
I'd like to apologize, in advance, for yelling at you when I catch you trying to sneak extra spices into my chulent...again.

August 5, 2008

i 'm sorry for not being as sensitive to your needs as i should , and i'm also sorry that i cant make my apology look beautiful like the others on this site.

September 12, 2007

Please forgive me for all of my transgressions,for my sins, for my
inability to forgive certain people who where suppose to love me and
didn't, for my stubbornness and temper. Please forgive me for the people
that I didn't help and could have. I do better now but the past still
haunts me. Please help me to be a better person for the rest of my life.

Thank you,


October 22, 2006

Dear Daddy,

I am so sorry that I carry the pain and stubborness for not allowing myself to forgive you for not ever being there for me all of my 44 years in this life. I am so sorry that I can not understand why you never ever wanted me or loved me. I was your first born and I am the last person you want to know. I am very sorry for not moving on and missing you so much in my life. And most of all I am sorry that I am still the little girl that still misses her daddy very much!


October 4, 2006

I apologize in advance for being moody and a jerk while the Mets are in the playoffs.

September 24, 2006


Please forgive me for all of my indiscretions. I am far from perfect and have not always been the nicest person or friend. I have spoken in vain about others and have caused pain by actions. I have also been unfaithful to my spouse. I have suffered severe consequences that I believe was retribution by G-d for my indiscretions. I beg for forgiveness and plead to be written in the good book for the next year. Not just for me but most importantly for my family who have suffered from my actions.

Please forgive me.

September 22, 2006

I sometimes find it very hard to accept what has happened to me and my life in the past 22 years. I wonder why at the age of 40 I was chosen to lose my husband and begin a decent into a black hole ( it took me 20 years to fall to the bottom) and now at age 62 I'm still trying to find my way out. My friend says it's our karma, that what is happening in our lives now is payback for what we did in previous' lives or for bad things we did in this life ( I don't recall ever doing anything really bad other than the usual childhood pranks).

Nothing in the past 22 years has ever come easy to me, and what I did accomplish and save was
lost during my first encounter with nearly dying. Now, having gone through something similar this past summer (nearly dying) I question even more why, why is life so hard for me and my loved ones?

I don't know if there is anyone out there who I need to ask forgiveness of, maybe there is and I'm just kidding myself. I'm not a perfect person, I've made my share of mistakes so if I have offended anyone recently or in the past I ask to be forgiven for those deeds.

I have a strong belief in G-d, I am a Jew who semi practices her religion. I
am proud to be Jewish and I truly believe that whatever happens in life is in G-d's hands.

I forgive my Dad. He gave me money for my utility bill, but he lost his temper and swore at me. He was disappointed in me because he grew up very poor and he never had anyone to help him out in this way. I understand why he was angry, and I forgive him for it. I know he loves me.

I forgive my mother for not protecting me from mental abuse by my "step-father". She was only looking for someone who cared about her. This man turned out to be a drug addict. My mother is such a good woman. She did not deserve this. She is always there for her children, but when we told her to leave this man who used her, she was hesitant. She was only looking for security. I completely forgive her.
To my husband:

I'm so sorry for the hurt I have caused you and continue to cause you, even though you are unaware. I know you are trying to show how much you love me, but I'm afraid it's too late. I love you, but I don't know if I'm in love with you any more.

I'm just as happy being by myself as with you, maybe more so because I don't have to deal with the inadequacies of our relationship.

Just remember, you are still you… it is me who has changed.
Dear Rob,

Please forgive me for all the impatience. Please forgive me for my temper and yelling. Please help me find the way to peaceful solutions and resolutions. You know that I love you and the girls more than anything in the world.


September 19, 2006

I wish I who knew to forgive and who to ask forgiveness from. All I know is that I spend a lot of time feeling dread and guilt over things I can't name.
Dear sister:

At this time so close to your yahrzeit I ask for forgiveness for not being able to support you in the way that I should have. I wish that I had stayed that last weekend as you wanted and I am so sorry for that. I remember that you called and said that you didn’t mean for me to feel badly, that it was a misunderstanding on your part, and I remember that you had love in your heart and voice. I wish I could have had as much love in mine. I miss you.

September 6, 2006

Join Project Forgiveness by sending us a postcard or email to share on the site.


It's simple.

Take a peice of paper or postcard or cardboard or tissue or anything else you find. Cut out pictures, print images, draw or paint and share your thoughts. Then, mail the postcard to the P.O. Box you see on the left. OR....Have fun with powerpoint, illustrator or any other program and send us an email to All entries are anonymous unless otherwise requested.


September 5, 2006


please forgive me, these many years later, for never having the courage to tell you that I loved you. I settled for being your 'big brother,' because I wasn't brave enough to risk my feelings and be honest with you. I couldn't stand the thought of possibly being rejected by you, and I didn't want to be hurt if you could not love me the way I loved you; and if you had returned my love, I was afraid I'd mess up the relationship in some way, and still lose you. If I had been as brave as I often pretended to be, I would have told you how deeply I loved you, and faced what ever had to come.

First of all I want to apologize to my family for putting them through this mess I created. I never meant to cause you any pain. I am stupid and I am terribly sorry.

Second to my church family. I hope that someday you can forgive me. I understand that if you can't.

Lastly, I want to apologize to my Father and Creator. I am so sorry. I know that when you created me that you never expected this from me. Please forgive me if you can and watch over me and my siblings and my entire church family and my friends. I want to thank you for everything .


Dear Mama,

I understand that you hurt me because you were in pain. I understand that you were hurt by people whom you loved, and that you have forgiven them.

It's very hard for me to forgive, because it seems like I'm saying that it's okay for people to hurt me. I know that forgiveness is the only way to free myself from the pain of the past.

I know that you did the best that you could. I forgive you. I know that you have forgiven me too.

I love you.


September 1, 2006

Subject: I forgive you, to my attorney

Since you are a member of the Jewish faith, it seems appropriate that I offer forgiveness and tell you how very hard it has been since the pain has been so fresh and so all encompassing.

I forgive you for trying to take more than your agreed percentage when representing me on my case. I forgive your anger when I confronted you with this information. I forgive you for forcing your secretary, my friend, to quit because you began an affair with your new assistant and made a fool out of all of them and your wife. I hope that you can attend your temple and address these issues with God and that you can find a path to a more honest, loving life with your wife and children.

I am working hard at moving forward, and have taken a big step by forgiving you.

- Anonymous
Karen, I am sorry for not believing you. I am sorry for adding to your hurt. I know now what you went through. Please forgive me. I want to forgive myself too for behaving in such an ungodly manner.

Dear David, [editors note: this is addressed to Dr. David Lieberman]

I just have to thank you. This is going to sound like a phoney endorsement...but I just have to say thank you.

In November last year I emailed you after I had flown 1000 miles and delivered a hand-written letter (as per chapter 18 of your "Make Peace With Anyone" book), and then left without seeing the person. A few weeks after delivering it, I handn't had a reply and asked your advice. You suggested I "let time take over".

Well I did that, and eventually I came to an inner peace over things and felt happy that I had done what I could to put things right. came a breakthrough. I had to go to the city of the woman in question for three days at a conference. On the last afternoon, I wrote another letter in much the same format and saying that I was leaving it just before flying out. I delivered it to the reception of her work....and, by chance one hour later as I was waiting for my taxi with my suitcase, she bumped into me.

She immediately thanked me for my letter and we chatted warmly for some minutes before interupted by my colleague. As she left, she said "I'll respond to your letter". And I caught the plane home.

Now, that might not sound like much...but I am even now too ashamed to tell you how appallingly I behaved toward her 16 months ago. That she is speaking to me at all is a miracle. That she was warm and friendly is beyond incredible. I don't know if we will become friends again...but I know that mutual respect has been re-established....and that is so, so good.
Thank you. Thank you will all of my heart.

Kindest regards,


Dear Steve,

Please forgive me for insinuating myself into your life. I do not want to cause pain for you or your loved ones, your wife and son. I wish only peace, happiness, and love to all of you. I am sorry for trying to manipulate an outcome that results in sadness.

Thank you for coming into my life to let me know that I am loveable and amazing. I apologize for trying to take advantage of that support to suit my own needs.

Thank you Lord, for continuing to bless us indeed. Thank you for continuing to enlarge our territories. Thank you for continuing to keep us all safe from harm and that we may cause no pain.

I ask that it is done quickly and in peace, and with ease and love and joy, according to my highest and best good and that of all concerned. we are thanking thee, so be it, so be it, so be it. We allow compassion, forgiveness, niracle and mercy.


Dear Angi,

Please forgive me interferring with your marriage and coveting your husband. I do not want to cause pain for you or Steve or your son. You have a wonderful, loving husband. I treasure the support that he has given me. I wish only peace, happiness, and love to all of you.

Thank you Lord, for continuing to bless us indeed. Thank you for continuing to enlarge our territories. Thank you for continuing to keep us all safe from harm and that we may cause no pain.

I ask that it is done quickly and in peace, and with ease and love and joy, according to my highest and best good and that of all concerned. we are thanking thee, so be it, so be it, so be it. We allow compassion, forgiveness, niracle and mercy.

I had 2 abortions. Everyday I wish I never did that.
I was a coward and did not have the courage to have my babies.
I am a Catholic. I go to church and ask God to forgive me.
But I can't go to confess and ask the priest for forgiveness.
Thank you for listening
Rosa S.
I want to ask God to forgive me for wasting my blessings and squandering my potential. I want to ask God to forgive me for being selfish and self-absorbed. I want to ask God to forgive me for my lack of faith and hope. I don't know how I got this way. I am asking for forgiveness for always trying to shortchange the situation and myself. All I know is that being this way is killing me inside. It can't go on, nor do I want it to. My core needs healing, Lord, and I pray that you provide that healing. Please continue to show me mercy. I am trying.